Once close collaborators, Hova and Yeezy are now trading barbs
Contemporary rap’s two biggest names just can’t get along.
The feud between Kanye West and Jay-Z escalated further after Hova launched a foul-mouthed tirade against the former in his newest album. “This ‘f–k everybody’ attitude ain’t natural,” Jay-Z complains in “4:44.” Of course, Kim Kardashian’s husband hasn’t taken it lying down: his team now claims that Tidal, the music streaming service owned by Jay-Z, owes him money.
The hip-hop duo previously had a lucrative and longstanding partnership: Jay-Z gave West his first break in the early aughts and the two once held what Rolling Stone called the “most ambitious hip-hop tour of all time.” “Watch The Throne,” a 2011 album collaboration between the two sold almost half a million copies within a week of their release and earned them seven Grammy nominations. Per Page Six, the fallout was triggered by West’s frustration that Carter’s wife Beyoncé doesn’t get along with his spouse Kim Kardashian.
Of course, it’s not just rappers that sometimes fall out. “Morning Joe” co-hosts Joe Scarborough and Mika Brzezinski, once friendly acquaintances with Donald Trump, are now engaged in a very public dispute with the President.
Should you be embroiled in a feud with a colleague, experts say you first have to ask if you’re in a position where the other party has influence over your career growth. If the answer is no, it may be possible to move on. But otherwise, you’ll have to “figure out what broke down and whether it’s reparable,” says New York career coach Roy Cohen.
Oftentimes, the answer is yes. “Sometimes misunderstandings arise because there’s just inefficient communication,” says the author of “The Wall Street Professional’s Survival Guide.” “Something must have been working right before it stopped.” In such an event, he recommends taking the other party out to lunch or coffee for a candid chat– far away from your other colleagues and having a frank chat.
When you do eventually sit down, take on an amiable tone. “Don’t go in with aggression because it’ll set off the conversation on the wrong note,” says Katie Bennett, co-founder at Ama LA Vida, a coaching company. The key to doing this is to be a good listener and acknowledge that you yourself may have made mistakes. “They’ll see that you understand their perspective,” she says.
That’s when it becomes easier to bring in examples of how you’ve felt mistreated– but be concrete and explain how certain past slights may have made you feel.
Of course, a frank conversation doesn’t always work. In which case, Cohen says it’s important to protect your reputation. “When someone decides they don’t like you, they may potentially undermine your reputation by telling others you’re an a–hole or incompetent,” he says. That’s when it’s time to approach your boss or a person in position of authority and ask them to help mediate.
And whatever you do, don’t gossip. “You don’t always have to mend the relationship, but don’t blame others,” says Bennett. “Being the bigger person helps even if it’s not always reciprocated. Over time, others will notice and that shines a light in your favor.”
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