Dating costs an average of $1596 a year
Talk isn’t cheap.
The secret to becoming more attractive to the opposite sex? Good conversation — at least according to a survey of 2,000 adults released Tuesday by Plenty of Fish. Indeed, the dating site found that nearly nine in 10 people (87%) said that they have found someone better looking after a good chat.
Experts agree: “Conversation is very important on a date, because it establishes how interesting and exciting a person is — traits that most people find attractive,” explains David Bennett, a relationship expert and author of “Be Popular Now: How Any Man Can Become Confident, Attractive, and Successful (And Have Fun Doing It).”
So what do you need to reveal about yourself in the conversation to make the person fall for you? The biggest thing is that you seem intelligent (47% said that someone seeming smart in a chat made them better looking), followed by a sexy voice (40%) and a sense of humor (34%).
On the flip side, bombing conversation will almost certainly work against you, with 85% of people having found someone less attractive after talking to them, the survey found. The top explanations for that? Having nothing in common (61%), coming across as mean or insensitive (58%) and having misaligned values (57%).
So how can you use this data to make a great impression on your date? First, make sure you have things in common to talk about, by looking up the person online (a dating profile is often a good way to do your homework) and noting a few hobbies or likes that you two might have in common before the date. Try to work in the commonalities seamlessly into the conversation. Indeed, a study on relationships released last year in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology concluded that “whether a relationship develops could depend on the level of similarity the two individuals share from the beginning of their meeting.”
Another tactic: Make sure that you seem smart, which is about far more than your IQ. What you wear can make you seem smarter (skimpy clothing is a no-no), as can how you speak (don’t swear a lot or pause for too long between statements) and keeping the number of drinks you have to a minimum.
Whatever you say to make the date go well, one thing is certain: It’s probably going to cost you. The average unmarried American spent $1,596 on their dating life last year, according to Match.com — with residents of cities like Washington D.C. ($1,788) and New York ($2,069) dropping even more. This includes everything from bar tabs and dating site memberships to new clothes and dating events. Men tend to spend a little more ($1,855) than women ($1,423).
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