Ivanka Trump, Kim Kardashian, LeBron James and Serena Williams have all boasted about their achievements — and you should too.
Being your biggest fan can pay off at work.
Ivanka Trump is the latest to publicly fan girl over herself by following 38 Instagram accounts devoted to praising her life and accomplishments, a very public display of affection for herself that people have noted recently.
She follows a slew of stars like Kim Kardashian, LeBron James and Serena Williams who have also boasted about their achievements.
It may seem vain, but whether you’re reading fan mail or simply basking in a “good job” email from your boss, giving yourself a mental or public pat on the back every once in awhile could help boost your self esteem and overall performance in the office, experts say.
“Celebrating is a really positive intention and I don’t think we do it enough. When you’re able to own your accomplishments and start to see yourself as a success, you’re able to be fully present,” career consultant Maggie Mistal tells Moneyish.
“It helps you become more confident, and therefore control your own destiny, that’s what positive bragging really does,” she adds.
Mistal coaches clients who are often bashful about trumpeting their achievements at work because they fear they’re being too self-centered or just plain obnoxious. So instead, she suggests focusing on the facts — what you did to achieve a goal, how you did it and the results — rather than downplaying the importance of the task.
“The people who tend to not brag are ones who feel a bit inadequate and insecure, but when you focus on the facts and the situation of what you did that’s where you can’t deny it,” says Mistal.
According to a 2016 study by Brown University, individuals who brag are perceived as more competent, than those who are modest.
Take a page from Lebron James’ playbook. After losing playoff game five during the NBA Finals in 2015, the Cleveland Cavaliers star was asked if he was still confident in his team’s chances to which he not so humbly replied:
“I feel confident because I’m the best player in the world. It’s that simple,” he said, in the affirmation heard round the sports world. The team ended up losing the final game, but Lebron is still a winner. He led the team to the 2016 NBA title a year later, and ranked No. 10 on Forbes’ Celebrity 100 list this year raking in $86 million.
Kim Kardashian boasted about landing the cover of Forbes magazine for making $45 million off her video game with the not-so-subtle hashtag #NotBadForAGirlWithNoTalent to caption a photo of her coveted cover on Instagram last year.
And after her shocking U.S. Open semifinal loss in 2015, the world’s No. 1 tennis ace Serena Williams stood by her record-breaking resume reflecting on her athletic accomplishments.
“I mean, I won four Grand Slam [tournaments] in a row, and got to the semi in another one, and I’ve done that twice. How many people have done that? So it wasn’t a loss for me, it was a win and a learning experience,” she confidently brushed off reporters at the time.
So when you reach a goal or deadline at work, don’t be afraid to own it. Women tend to downplay their accomplishments less than men, according to Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg’s career credo “Lean In.”
“Men attribute their success to innate qualities and skills. Women attribute their success to luck and help from others,” she wrote.
Author Peggy Klaus, who penned the book “The Art of Tooting Your Own Horn Without Blowing It,” offers practical advice like coming up with a “bragologue,” or a short and sweet story about your accomplishments that you can rehearse before you meet someone you need to impress.
Just keep in mind one rule of thumb when you do — don’t pull a Kanye.
The musician never shies away from sharing his “greatness” with the world, perhaps giving himself a little too much credit once when he referred to himself as a “creative genius.” And Gwyneth Paltrow bluntly owned up to her wealth and popularity, claiming she “can’t pretend to be someone who makes $25,000 a year.”
“If you’re too self centered in sharing your accomplishments that’s when it comes across as negative. No one wants to work with that person,” says Mistal.
Here are some of the right ways to brag at work all you want without sounding like a jerk:
Avoid the humble brag.
We’ve all done it — share exciting news on social meeting like meeting a celebrity or boasting about a significant other and masking it with a self-deprecating joke to appear modest. But Mistal says people can see right through it and it makes you look less authentic.
A 2015 Harvard study revealed that people who use humblebrags to show off were rated as less likable and less sincere than those who openly boasted.
Be discerning about who you brag to.
Share your wins with the right people, like your boss and not a jealous co-worker or someone who might get competitive.
“You don’t need to brag in front of everyone. Consider who you’re sharing it with including the people who will benefit from your achievement like your boss or prospective clients or customers or anybody who would give you a promotion or raise because of it,” suggests Mistal.
Give credit where credit is due.
Acknowledging the people who helped you achieve a goal can help you look less self centered when gloating about getting a job done.
Let people talk you up.
If you’re entering a job interview or stepping up to the plate for bigger role in your current position, have people you’ve worked with speak on your behalf.
“Think of it as a third party pitch. If you don’t like to brag and it feels uncomfortable, ask others what’s great about you. Then when you’re talking about your accomplishments you can list what others have said,” says Mistal.
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