Here’s how to settle arguments with your coworkers, like Pirro and Goldberg, Taylor Swift and Katy Perry, and more.
Jeanine Pirro recognizes that she and Whoopi Goldberg have different views.
The Fox News host (the news network is owned by the same parent company as Moneyish publisher Dow Jones) had a heated on-air exchange over President Trump when Pirro, 67, sat down on “The View” last Thursday, which was reportedly followed by an obscenity-laced shouting match backstage. Pirro claimed that Goldberg, 62, was “literally spitting at me: ‘Eff you, get the eff out of this building,’” on Sean Hannity’s radio show. Goldberg said on Friday’s episode of “The View” that while she did say “a few choice words I cannot repeat” to Pirro, she denied spitting on her or chasing her out.
But on her “Justice with Judge Jeanine” segment on Saturday night, Pirro said she’s now ready to “close the book” on their feud and “move on.”
— Fox News (@FoxNews) July 22, 2018
“Whoopi, I accept that you and I have different views on what happened both on and off the air. We have completely different takes on President Trump and the job he’s doing,” she said. “So let’s agree to disagree and put this episode to bed, once and for all.” Granted, that could be because the spat helped make Pirro’s new book, “Liars, Leakers and Liberals: The Case Against the Anti-Trump Conspiracy,” the No. 1 best-seller on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Goldberg has yet to publicly respond.
Speaking of bad blood, Taylor Swift and Katy Perry also buried the hatchet this spring, after feuding for nearly five years in the spotlight.
Swift, 28, shared an Instagram story showing a good-luck note — with an actual olive branch on it — that she got from Perry, 33, on the first night of her “Reputation” tour in May. This actual olive branch appears to end their years-long cat fight.
“Hey old friend,” the note appears to read. “I’ve been doing some thinking on past miscommunications and feelings between us and wanted to clear the air.” And the apologetic words “deeply sorry” are clearly written, as well.
“Thank you Katy,” Swift captioned the video, adding a double-heart emoji.
Swift and Perry were once BFFs, but had beef after rumors circulated that Perry stole one of Swift’s backup dancers in 2014 http://www.tmz.com/2014/09/10/katy-perry-taylor-swift-feud-backup-dancers-tour-john-mayer/ . Swift told Rolling Stone that her 2014 song “Bad Blood” was inspired by a female artist who’d stabbed her in the back (believed to be Perry). And the pair reunited for the first time since their feud at the Hits Radio station in Manchester last month, when they were photographed shopping together and sipping prosecco in the sun.
But the pop stars are hardly the first two to publicly feud and makeup. After Hugh Grant recently told People that Robert Downey Jr. “hated” him and “wanted to kill” him when they worked together on the 1995 film “Restoration,” the “Ironman” star responded on Twitter that he’s ready to let bygones be bygones.
“A lot has happened over two decades! I respect how Mr. Grant has matured as an artist & voice against violations of privacy,” Downey Jr. tweeted on Thursday. “Let’s break bread together soon @HackedOffHugh! #burythehatchet2018”
— Robert Downey Jr (@RobertDowneyJr) January 11, 2018
Grant responded with, “Thanks, @RobertDowneyJr. Nice way to kick off the year. And yes – if you’re in London come by and break bread,” and also wrapped with, “Respect. #burythehatchet2018.”
— Hugh Grant (@HackedOffHugh) January 12, 2018
And Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson reportedly ended his very public dispute with fellow “Fast and Furious” actor and producer Vin Diesel last year. The wrestling star turned actor frequently vented his frustrations with Diesel over social media – like , calling him a “candy ass” and pointedly leaving him out in an Instagram post thanking the cast and crew of the car racing franchise.
But there’s nothing like cash to bury the hatchet. After “The Fate of the Furious,” the franchise’s eighth installment, made a record $532 million at the global box office on the opening weekend, the two decided to take the high road. TMZ reported that Johnson and Diesel will both star in the next installment of the series.
Arguing with a co-worker in public is typically a mistake, says Jacqueline Whitmore, etiquette expert and author of “Poised For Success.” “You should do it diplomatically and in private,” she advises.
Even if you’re not a Hollywood actor feuding with your co-star, there are practices everyone can take to end workplace disputes over credit. Whitmore recommends having a conversation that avoids accusatory “you statements” that begin with “you did this” or “you did that.”
Instead, articulate your emotions candidly but non-dramatically. “Use statements that begin with “I feel” and explain how you feel equally responsible for the success of a project,” she says. “Ask if there’s a reason why you were left out and for yourself to be treated the way they’d want to be treated.”
When you think you might be working on a project in which someone else is vying for top billing, Whitmore recommends keeping track of your accomplishments so you can reference them in a dispute. “With facts and figures, you’ve got more to stand on,” she says. If the other party has similar records, it makes it objectively easier to sort out the credit. “Typically when they’ve got statistics, you’ve got to back off. Actions speak louder than words.”
Sometimes, there’s nothing you can do but ask for a transfer to another department where you don’t have to deal with your co-worker nemesis. That’s especially if the other party has a caustic and difficult personality. But when the stakes are high—as they were with Diesel and the Rock—try being the bigger person and swallow your provide. “Etiquette is situational,” Whitmore says. “But the best thing you can do is try to get along.”
This article was originally published in 2017, and has been updated.
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